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The “Gaslighting” Effect
“He just makes me feel stupid by the comments he makes about me. He’ll say I don’t know what I’m talking about, that I’m too emotional, too negative. He does
The Origins of the “People Pleaser”
Do you find it difficult to say no to others? For example, you say yes to requests from other people even though you are already terribly busy and feeling stress
Your Pain Is Valid
Bruce remembers there wasn’t room for him in the kindergarten class circle. He was the only one sitting on the outside, and he recalls the feeling of being left out
Fear and Shame of Being “Not Good Enough”
Janette could still recall the fear and shame that overtook her 30 years ago when she was riding the TTC. It was a hot summer day, and the bus was
Getting Through Procrastination
We all procrastinate from time to time. I’ve been procrastinating on writing blogs. So, what is getting in the way? Why do we procrastinate? The common response is “I don’t
Understanding Addiction
Initially, a substance (or activity) serves a purpose by providing relief – a coping mechanism for emotional pain and turmoil. But with continued use, and then abuse, brain biology is
About Yoga
Yoga is an ancient eastern practice that was brought to the attention of the west in the early 20th century by masters such as Tirumalai Krishnamacharya, Paramahansa Yogananda and BKS
Body-Centered Psychotherapy
If psychotherapy is a “black box” for people, then body-centered psychotherapy can seem even more mysterious. Quite simply, the therapist provides a therapeutic touch that can allow for an emotional
Build Lasting, Intimate Relationships
Every women’s magazine (and men’s) always has an article on relationships. How can we make our partner happy? What does he/she/they really want? What is the secret to a lasting
Mindfulness and Meditation
Mindfulness and Meditation are two techniques that I teach with my clients. There are subtle differences between the two although for therapy, they serve the same end goal. That is,
Embrace Your Shadow
Do you ever get “triggered” by people? Is your reaction more dramatic than it should be? It may be that you have met your “shadow side” in the other person.
Phases of Intimate Relationships
Why are intimate relationships so hard? Why is our partner being emotionally distant and why won’t he or she commit? When we have difficulty in relationships, do we blame our
Psychotherapy Basics
Psychotherapy Effectiveness According to Wampold (2010), psychotherapy is an effective treatment for depression, anxiety, marital dissatisfaction, addiction and sexual dysfunction. He states that the “average person who receives psychotherapy is
Meditation – How to Practice at Home
Meditation is a technique used to relieve stress and rejuvenate the mind. Neuro-imaging research at Harvard University has measured the effect of meditation on brain activity, demonstrating that it helps to reduce
Love Yourself
The Buddha said, “If you practice loving kindness you will know the answer to every question there is. Enlightenment does not bring love; love is what brings enlightenment”. In his